One of the many great things that have happened due to the popularity of the internet and the ease of doing many things from home is online dating. Sites such as Match.com, eHarmony, Lavalife, Plenty of Fish and many others all make it an easier option to meet people for those of us that don’t have much time on their hands to go out and meet others and for people that may be a little shy as an easier way to step outside of their box or comfort zone a little more.
Of course, though, meeting a woman on the internet is almost like meeting a woman in person. There are do’s and donts along with good and bad methods to getting her attention. But with our help, we’re going to make the most out of your subscription with these internet dating services and get you to meet some people.
Here, we’ll help you make the most out of your profile, maximize your potential to receive greetings (emails, winks, smiles, etc…), and help you get that attention you want. Soon enough, you’ll be picking and choosing from the profiles of the women you’d like to get to know and on your way to dating.
How to Get the Most Out of Your Profile
Pictures…Pictures…Pictures…
I can’t emphasize these words enough! Having a picture on your profile is the most important thing you can put on your profile. Not possibly, not perhaps, or even most likely….it simply is!!! When you sign up to these sites, one of the 1st things they’ll mention to you is that profiles with pictures get 75% or more responses than those without one. Remember, having a picture allows women to gain an interest in you or look for what they want physically. When they see what they want or become interested in you, then they’ll click your profile to read what you have to say and offer.
Your Picture
I figured I emphasize this just one more time! But also make sure you have at least two or three recent pictures of yourself on your profile. Look your best in your pictures and smile. Try avoiding the cell phone camera in the mirror pictures if you can and cropping out your ex-girlfriend’s arm when it’s clearly around your shoulders isn’t the best picture to choose either. Pick something where it looks like you’re having fun, maybe a cool night out picture, and definitely, a picture where she can see your face.
Your Profile Heading or Title
This is usually the next thing people see after they look at your picture. It should be short and inviting, or funny to get someone’s attention. Avoid stating anything saying you’re “looking for” or “needing”. It comes across as being slightly desperate or needy at times and not very many women will want to respond to that.
Be Honest
Why lie about your weight, height, age, or anything else if you ever plan to meet a person from the internet? If you don’t look like your picture, or you made up the words on your profile to sound a certain way, what do you think her response is going to be like, if you do actually meet, and you don’t fit your profile?
The internet gives you the freedom to say what you want and be anything, but if you’re truly trying to make a connection, stay true to yourself and let your real personality and “you” be the reason she’s interested in getting to know you.
Make Your Description Section About Your Qualities
Tell them the good stuff. You’re a great person and you love to do this and that. You spend your nights doing this, you’re great at that. Boom-Bam-Boom! Keep hitting them with positive notes about yourself in your profile. Highlight a special moment in your life or something great that you’re doing, or did, and basically in your own words, let them know if they’re interested in getting to know you, to wink, email, smile, or get in contact with you. The more positives you have on your profile, the more they’ll see in you and want to be apart of your life and success.
Getting Her Interest:
Show Your Interest
So as your going through the profiles, you notice someone that you’d love to get to know. You click their profile, you read it (not just look at the pictures, actually reading it!), and she sounds normal and interesting. Now’s the time to let her know you are interested in her. Most of these sites have a way of letting the other person know that you’re interested in them with a wink, smile, or some other form of showing interest. Click that button to express your interest and give it a few days to see if you get a response back.
If You Don’t Get Shown Interest or A Response Back
A couple of us here at MakingHerDay.com have tried most of these dating sites and found that sometimes people you show interest in will not respond back for a while or may not respond at all. Sometimes they may not have an active account to read emails, other times they may not have signed on in a while, they’re dating someone at the moment, or maybe you’re not their type. Either way, you’re on a dating website with hundreds, if not, maybe even thousands of single women, so keep looking around and show your interest in a couple of women that catch your eye. The more people you express your interest to, the more chances you have of getting a response from someone.
Email/I.M. (Instant Messages)
If you do get a response back from one of the people you showed interest in, this is the perfect time to email that person. You know she’s somewhat interested and now it’s just about making conversation to see if there’s an actual connection there. Be casual and try to keep the first email short. Say hello, write about something that you liked in her profile, and ask her an open-ended question to get a conversation going. Just remember to be yourself and be honest. After that initial email, feel free to let the conversations go where they go. Just try to keep it PG rated until the person you’re speaking with brings the conversation there.
If the site has an Instant Message (I.M.) function on it, I’d recommend only using it with the women you’re already speaking with through emails. It can truly suck to try to I.M. somebody that won’t respond. However, you may receive an I.M. from a female that’s interested in you that you have yet to speak to. In that situation, you already know you’re perfectly fine to keep the conversation going.
Getting Her Phone Number
After a few emails, if you feel comfortable and ready, feel free to ask her for her phone number to call her directly sometime soon. Never ask for her phone number right away. Give it time and let her become comfortable & interested in you a little more to the point where she wants to hear from you. Unless it’s offered to you early on, don’t ask for it until maybe three or four emails have gone back and forth, over a day or two.
When To Ask Her On A Date
So she’s interested in you, you’ve had some great conversations over emails, and the phone conversation went well too. Now is the perfect time to ask if you can meet up with her in person. Casually bring it up during a conversation, something to the extent of, “I’m having a great time getting to know you, would you be interested in maybe meeting up for a cup of coffee sometime?”, or replace the coffee date with a nice little place to go to where you can sit down and talk. Offer her the date and if she’s ready to meet, schedule something for the best day that you’re both available. If she’s not ready, let her know not to worry, and that you still want to continue getting to know her regardless.
On a side note……the 1st meeting with someone from the internet, you’ll want to go to a public place she knows or somewhere close to her for her to feel as safe and comfortable as possible. Try to make that 1st meeting a short date initially so that in the case that she’s not what you thought or maybe you’re not what she thought, you’re both not stuck feeling awkward or uncomfortable for a long period of time. And in that same respect, if you both hit it off, you can always keep the date going from there if you’re both open to it.
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