This section is dedicated to those trying to get the attention of someone that’s caught your eye. We’ll help you approach that someone you find special or just getting that beautiful girl you see every day notice you more by saying “Hello”. We know how the entire process of introducing yourself, making “small talk”, and asking her out on a date can be nerve-wracking, embarrassing, frustrating, and a bunch of other feelings ending in “ing” but we’re here to help you get through it.
Here’s our list of things to keep in mind when you’re trying to get someone to notice you and get their attention.
Things to remember before you approach her:
What’s the worst that could happen?
What’s worse? Knowing she doesn’t see you the same way that you see her or never knowing if she would’ve given you a shot because you never took one? Pretty deep right? But honestly, if she does say no, it’s not the end. Now you can stop concentrating all your attention on her, and notice that other girl who’s been eyeing you for weeks. Either way, once you know how she feels, you can make the right move by getting to know her, or move on.
The worst thing happened, she said no.
To be honest, sometimes that’s not even a bad thing. At least now she knows you were interested in her and that’s a compliment to her for you to express your interest in her. And who knows, maybe she’ll start to look at you differently now and give it a thought or two. At the very least, you had the confidence to say something, you realize approaching a girl isn’t so hard, and you’ll have an answer instead of constantly wondering “what if”.
Don’t let your buddies do the talking!!!
Come on now guys…you’re way better than this. Sending your co-worker or friend to take that bullet for you isn’t right. Go over to her yourself with confidence and talk to her. Sending somebody else to do the talking for you makes you seem as though you lack confidence or that you’re too shy to talk to her yourself.
And yes, we know all about the matchmakers out there who have the perfect girl for you, or your boy that wants to go up to that beautiful girl at the bar for you; but trust us, you’re way better off going up to her yourself and saying hello. Grab your friends by the collar, put them on a chair, and let them know…..”Thanks, but I got this on my own.”
No Begging!!!
Fellas, you don’t understand how many times we’ve heard dudes say to a woman that’s not interested in them….”Come onnnnnn…You sure we can’t even be friends or something”, or some other line to try and change her mind. If she says no….it’s a no guys. Thank her for her time and stay positive.
Keep Your Pride in Check!
If she says no, gives you a mean look, or if she keeps walking and ignores you after you tried to say hello, be the better person and just smile or laugh it off to yourself and keep going along your way. No need to curse her out, tell her she’s conceited or become disrespectful. Simply, take it as catching her at a bad time and maybe she wasn’t ready in her life, to appreciate a person like you.
If she does say yes and she’d love to get to know you more, try not to high-five the dude walking next to you, jump in the air, do a fist pump or anything too crazy. However, if you know her well enough and she thinks you’re a clown, it’s actually suggested that you do any of those silly antics to make her laugh.
What can help you get her attention is…
Looking for the Signs
Sometimes we’re given the cues by women to let us know that they’re interested in us (touching, smiles with an eye to eye contact, flirting, asking us to hang out, etc…) and we fail to see them. Trust what you feel and have the confidence in yourself to give it a shot.
Feeling Your Best
Your confidence flows out. If you don’t feel confident in yourself, then why will she? At least do your best and pretend to be. Stand tall and straight, look her in the eye when you talk, and most importantly, smile. No woman wants someone that looks like something’s bothering them and it makes you more appealing and easier to talk to if you look happy, cool, and energetic.
Saying the Right Thing
If it’s in you to be funny say something that’ll make her laugh or smile from time to time. If she looks drop dead gorgeous as usual, let her know in a nice subtle way every once in a while. (***please note…..I did say once in a while…..not every day & not every single time you see her that day***) Just say something to the effect of, “Hi, I’m sorry to bother you but I just wanted to say you look very beautiful”.
Try not to say “you look beautiful today”. Especially if it’s someone you see all the time. Adding that one word “today” in that sentence will sometimes make them wonder how they must look all the other time then. If you have a good sense of humor about you, feel free to run with that word “today” and let them know all the other times their hideous looking or that they look like the Cookie Monster for a smile or quick laugh. Just be sure that they get & understand your humor or know you well enough to know that you’re just joking.
Don’t Use Pick up lines
Please, guys…..let’s not do the “What’s your sign” or the “You must be tired because you’ve been running through my mind” cliché lines. Believe it or not, the best pick up line that you can use is just saying “Hello”. Hello with a smile & your name can tell you just about everything you need to know about your chances with her. You walk up to her, say Hello, I’m so and so……and if you’re not talking to her breeze from her walking away, by the time you’ve finished the “O” in Hello, you’re in business, my friend!
Keeping It Simple and Direct
If she’s walking somewhere when you stopped her, at work, at a bar with friends, or just looks a little busy, just say Hi, I’m (insert your name here) along with a smile. If you get a name back with a smile, you’re in business. After that, let her know you think she’s beautiful, mention a feature on her face that stands out to you, or mention the reason why you stopped her briefly. Theses are all different things you can start your introduction with. After that, ask her if maybe you can get in touch with her some time or maybe meet up sometime and take it from there. If a quick conversation doesn’t happen or come up, let her know you’ll be in touch soon and smile. As long as she’s standing in front of you and still smiling and talking back, you’re doing good. Just do your best to keep it short & sweet.
Now just remember……life and women can be tricky sometimes. Some things that work with one person, won’t necessarily work for someone else. The most important thing for you to do is to feel comfortable within yourself and always remember, for every girl that says no or isn’t interested, there’s another girl or two looking for a guy just like you. Always keep a “half-full” way of thinking and you’ll be just fine.
